Humble opinion of a 6.0 monster

[monster]

I'm not quite sure how to start this off except to say that yes, in fact I do forgive this man for his actions. Before you ask "what the hell is she thinking?" please read on...

I know many people here were hurt by what has been done. I also know that personally I do not sit in a position to judge. I don't for a second believe that imsickofit ever intended to cause the emotional pain that was inflicted and I know for a fact he never expected us to come together and collect money for his family. With that said, if I thought he was intenionally trying to cause us pain, then no, I would be unable to forgive, but I do NOT believe that and I think many of you feel the same way. I don't condone what was done, but I absolutely believe in my heart that he did not realize what he was doing.

I am not a psycholigist nor do I pretend to know what was in this persons mind when he did what he did, but I think there are some issues beyond his control at this point. Many of us have dealt with paranoia in this system. This horrible system we go through unfortunately facilitates the need for it. Some are made that way from medications, some from the threat of every move being watched. Others of us have problems that will only become worse with the paranoia.

I can't and won't condemn this man for what he did. I have never walked in his shoes...my shoes aren't the greatest in the world but I will take them over the nightmare that this poor guy is living.

I think many here might not have been as badly affected had I not suggested donations for the family. With that came even more grieving...and yes, compounded an already bad situation. I don't bame myself for all that has happened, but I did need to check into it more thoroughly...had I done that many of the feelings going on right now might not be as strong or there at all. Some were upset with Wink when he was only trying to protect us.

I do hope that if this gentleman needs further assistance with his WC case that we will strive to provide it, as that is what we are actually here for. The fact that we have become a family is in my eyes a huge bonus, but it is not what this board was intended to be, although I am glad it has become a family. As in all families there is friction and misdeeds, but like a family we need to stand behind each other for who knows when a med might knock one of us off our rocker (as mine has in the past) and we might post something really stupid without the benefit of our brain being in the right place.

Well that's my opinion whether it be right or wrong. I feel I contributed to the heartache that has been suffered over the course of the last week or so and wanted to express myself. I love you all and respect all of your opinions and feelings. Maybe in time we can all heal and welcome this person back if he should need our help.

Love,
Your great big, blue lovey monster

[Bad Boy Bad Boy]

My 6.0 Monster, it's called, Faith, Hope, Charity, Love, and willing to perform an act that is heart warming. You done nothing wrong, nor did you cause Undue stress. It's family, it's friends, and that's what they come together for.

[red1030]

Monster, everytime I think you can not do something more wonderful, you up and surprise me. You truly are a wonderful person and I believe that was very well said, and I agree 100%. We all make mistakes, especially when we are medications. We all say things and do things that we wished we had not said, but once it is said you can't take it back, but you can hope that the people who heard it will love you and forget inspite of yourself. You have done that for this IW. This is a family of people of from all nationalities, cultures, religions, all 4 corners of the US and yet we can gather together in one mind of giving support to our IW's and their family's, I believe this person needs no less. Thank you for being who you are a warm and generous person. I wish I could meet all of you someday and tell you just how much you all mean to me.

[snowbear]

Very well said monster. We all fall short of the glory of God.

[Deb]

Thank you Monster for just being you!

Deb

[Pooh]

Monster

Very well put.

Being a member of another board for years, I have seen the same thing happen and we didn't turn the person away for going through an emotional time, instead we tried to understand what brought them to that point the best that we could.

I do hope the flippingout gives us the opportunity to help him over this hump in his life at this time. Sounds like he needs to do some venting. Maybe he was just wanting to be invisable for a while, but we are after all a family in away and like all families - we still care about each other.

[jayne]

I am so humbled and proud of my family here

[Babebahn]

Our Blue Monster...Thank you for being you! This Board could not exist with out the wonders of YOU!