question for 1171

[Pooh]

wow

I stay off for a while and looks what happens

First off I may be the bad person here because

1) 1171 can't speak for all IC's - some may wait until the morning of the hearing to have the final answer. And Jayne I know it's a ways for you to travel - but that is exactly what happened to driller. They made an offer that was lower than what he would get if he went into the court room for the trial since he knew roughly what his rating would be and $$ amount.

2) he answered the question the best he could and maybe he tought the questions was worded wrong and just put the response in the wrong wording coming off sounding mean instead of saying that it was worded wrong. He tried to say that with the taxes explanation. That's the way I took it.


Maybe I am more tolerant that others and am able to read through the lines and if I had seen jaynes posts earlier I could have helped answer this post and maybe some of this would have been unnecessary since I have seen how things have worked first hand here in OK. whereas 1171 has not seen it - he may not even have even dealt with clients in OK, but yet he comes in here to try and help and yet he faces hostility from the injured workers as well. Why is that, is it because of his profession? I didn't think we held that against him. I know I never have and I have been a member of this board for 3 1/2 years.

[jayne]

nah pooh he has been pushing alot of buttons here lately when he messed with Bad Boys post he went to far

[billybubba]

Just an observation. For all the talk here about Jesus, God, Prayers and forgiveness, this board has the most unforgiving people I've ever seen. Even posts saying "I forgive you" proceed to slam the people being "forgiven".

I'll go put on my asbestos underwear now.

[red1030]

billybubba...I understand what you are saying, however, never once did I say that I can't forgive anyone. There is a difference between forgiveness and holding someone accountable for bad behavior. No one here has ever said a mean thing to me, and I have never said a mean thing to anyone else. I just wish all the harsh words that often go unchallenged would stop and we could all act like the mature adults that we are. I do not hold any bad feelings towards anyone. As a matter of fact, if it were me that this was directed at, it would be a lot easier because I would just say not important and let it roll up my back. I am however, weary of my friends feeling like they are someones carpet to step on.

[Pooh]

Jayne

I will admit I don't read every reply daily as there are some threads that I feel that have been asked and answered. Even on the old forum if I felt it was asked and answered, I would not respond to the thread.

However, I think there are just better ways of handling things than bringing out disagreements between 2 people directly on the board for all to see. If both parties have pm (private message) activated, then the 2 parties can try and work it out in private message over hashing it on the boards in my opinion.

All we see is what a person types, not their face, not their body language. So we can not tell if they are joking at the time they are typing the post at time or not. So yes at times some feelings may get hurt if the words are taken wrong. Did the original poster mean for the person to take the words wrong - most likely not - it's really hard to say since I was not the one typing them. I can only say what I feel when I type my words. And I try to read my emotions into those words I read as if I was typing them in the jest of the converstation at hand.

Presently, we are all still learning this new board, and that includes 1171. I am going to say this and I am sure most on this board other than maybe Admin, Wink and 1171 won't remember this person - but we had another member on the old board that tried to help the injured workers. Dr. Dave was great with his advice, but some was skeptical of him because he would do IME's for the IC as well. He was honest about it - and he said he would give his honest opinion. But because he admitted he did IME"s for the IC there were those on the board that felt that he was not for the IW. Yet he gave us lots of information. If you go to the old boards and can search for his name I am sure you will see what I mean about useful advice if it is still there.

I forget how long he left after the new board went up the last time as I came aboard the new board. But again, there was a very helpful person that was lost because of mistrust or because people heard things they didn't want to hear, etc. I don't remember off hand. He just disappeared one day never to come back. So I can't really say why he left. We have few people in the business that really try to help us navigate through the system other than our own attorneys and they may not always have our best interest at heart. At least here we know our friends do - this inlcudes those that are within the system that are trying to help like Dallas and 1171.

Now that being said - does that mean that I don't care for any of my family here - the answer is - I CARE FOR ALL OF MY FAMILY HERE!!!! And like any of you - I hate to see all the bickering going on. If you all were my kids, I would put each of you in seperate corners of a room on a chair and let you sit there and think about things and see how long it takes you guys to work things out. Think about it - he touched me first - no she did, no he touched her first i was protecting her, etc. That is what is going on here - it's starting to sound like your a bunch of grown up children fighting over a new toy.

So I guess maybe I will be the forum mom on this post with sense and call it like it is. Now I am going to tell you all to shake hands and tell each other your sorry and let by gones be by gones. And hopefully in the future if you have problems with each other - maybe you can work it out more constructively than out in public where others can bash a person or maybe Admin can make it so that only the people involved can reply to the posts. I don't know what if the other person has their pm disabled.

Luv ya all and you know it.

[snowbear]

Please stop and think back to when this all started... if I'm right, it was when the "death" issue came into this forum.  Before that, we were all excited about having this new site and all of the new options it offers.  It seems like once negativity crept in...it's been a downward spiral ever since.  WE are better than this!!!!!!  I do need to say one thing that I see that is positive and proves that we are family.....when someone hurts one of us, we come to the rescue just like family is suppose to...so it gives me hope that WE will overcome these obstacles!!!!  Dolly Parton has an old song out called "Family".......

  When it's family, you forgive them for they know not what they do
When it's family, you accept them, 'cause you have no choice but to
When it's family, they're a mirror of the worst and best in you
And they always put you to the test
And you always try to do your best
And just pray for God to do the rest, when it's family

Some are preachers, some are gay
Some are addicts, drunks and strays
But not a one is turned away, when it's family
Some are lucky, others ain't
Some are fighters, others faint
Winners, losers, sinners, saints, it's all family

And when it's family you trust them and your heart's an open door
When it's family, you tolerate what you'd kill others for
When it's family, you love and hate and take, then give some more
Somehow you justify mistakes, try to find some better way
To solve the problems day to day, in the family

You take the trouble as it comes and love them more than anyone
Good or bad or indifferent, it's still family
You choose your lovers, you pick your friends
Not the family that you're in, nah
They'll be with you 'til the end, 'cause it's family

And when it's family, you forgive them for they know not what they do
When it's family, they're a mirror of the worst and best in you
When it's family, when it's family
Let me be all that I should be to the family


Beautiful song...look it up on the net to listen to it.  Goodnight JohnBoy, Goodnight MaryEllen, etc....

[jayne]

you said it just right snowbear just right.....thanks tuffy.....