Handling Disrespect for SIL

[lucky]

My "new" son in law made a disrespectful remark to me over the weekend in my house. I had no idea where it came from but it pissed me off.

I looked at him and told him that Smart A*S comments were not tolerated period. He did not respond much less look at me. I went on bed; It was midnight. I have a heart condition and anger and anxiety attacks do not need to be a part of my life.

I was expecting a apology the next day at a minimum. Guess what? He did not do poop. Now my daughter and wife are upset over the tension that my daughter and son in law took home with them Sunday.

How would you currently handle this? I do not like to be dis respective by a 30 year old "kid" especially when I did zero to cause it.

I think he owes me a big time apology. I would like to slap him into another world like my parents would have done. I did not back talk my parents much-less say something Sarcastic even at 50 years of age.

[Bummer Knees]

Lucky I have a 13 yr old and every time he talks back to be or is disrespectful he recieves one day of grounding.

He was grounded the first two weeks of summer, no fun for him! My son is doing better, he knows I will not tolerate disrespect.

You did not raise your son in law, but you do have control of his behavior in your home by throwing him out the door when needed.

[bronco54501]

Lucky , you have every right to be furious with him.. That was one thing that my parents enforced and if we screwed up I got the belt.. It wasnt long before I realize they mean it........ My sisters first husband was and still is disrespectfull but out of love my parents tried to put up with it for my sisters sake.. One day my mom couldnt handle it any longer, now picture this woman 5ft 2 in jumpping up to slap this 6ft 4in ignorant piece of crap... it was priceless, never once did he disrespect my mother or father again... I am glad my sister seen the light after her own expierences of his aditude twords her and others........ IMO, I would set him straight for your daughters sake.........

[Cervical_Fusion]

I was beginning to think I was the only one in life with a disrespectful
childs spouse.
Mine is my sons wife or a daughter in law...We are not good enough for her.....she is a Dr. and OB/GYN...and well I will not get into it here..But again you are not alone with your childs spouse.

[jayne]

I think you did right I would add he owes you an apoligy and it would come before he is welcome back...its the way I run my home anyway