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RE: Does your family understand and support you - Cookiecrum - 10-09-2009 09:56 AM
I don't feel like I am in danger as far as physical. He has never hit me or threatened to hit me. He's just a big fat jerk that's all. He gets me really emotionally sometimes ok all the time.
RE: Does your family understand and support you - Bad Boy Bad Boy - 10-09-2009 01:40 PM
If anyone, anybody, other then my doctor told me not to take my medication, or took my medication away from me, they best sleep with one eye opened. There would be hell to pay, for trying to control me like I was a Puppy in training. This man needs help, major help.
Maybe he belongs to one of those strange CULTS?
And you need help for staying there with him. Don't look for an excuse to stay there, get the Hell out and away from him.
RE: Does your family understand and support you - jayne - 10-09-2009 01:48 PM
He bloody well wouldnt sleep here either
RE: Does your family understand and support you - capricorn - 10-09-2009 02:06 PM
Cookie....I am so glad you came here. You need and deserve support. This sounds like a horrible situation and like your BF is a dictator. Have you no rights? Has he always been this demanding? Even before your injury? Can you move in with your mom/dad? for a time. Keep in mind this is HIS issue but you are allowing it to become yours. Talk in depth with your therapist about this and get all the advise and support you can. I am with Badboy. He's disgraceful and it sounds as if he has a hang up because his ex-wife was into pills. DOn't let him put this on you or take it out of you. God be with you. I wish you all the best. It doesn't sound like a very happy relationship. I think it 's time to jump ship.
RE: Does your family understand and support you - nwpapa - 10-09-2009 04:56 PM
I can relate, befor my back injury/surgery I was an advid Quad rider, camper, motorcyclist and always helped my friends with house remodeling and car repairs. All of that has changed and now I have fewer friends. I too dont like taking pills. Bottom line of it all is we each understand how we feel and what is going on in our heads. Nobody is inside of us, I too see a therapist (not just for my back but for other things as well) Having this injury doesnt help it... If you BOY enemy cant support you and allow you do what you need to get healthy (mentally and physically, then I suggest taking a break. Maybe a short vacation. Learn that you are in charge of your recovery and that if a person wont support you then its time to re assess if they are truely your friend/person you need in your life. Remember "You are in charge"....
RE: Does your family understand and support you - ems30 - 10-10-2009 06:22 PM
Cookiecrum Wrote:I don't feel like I am in danger as far as physical. He has never hit me or threatened to hit me. He's just a big fat jerk that's all. He gets me really emotionally sometimes ok all the time.
Honey, thats still abuse. Emotional abuse is very damaging, and in some ways, harder to deal with because there are no marks. It makes bringing it up to other people difficult. You need to take care of you, both physically and emotionally. Stay strong!
RE: Does your family understand and support you - nwpapa - 10-11-2009 01:59 PM
Emotional well being is extremely important to physical healing. If you cant get his support emotionally then you may as well get used to being ill. Im sorry for sounding so strong but, I cant stand to see someone allowing themselves to be abused and making excuses for their abuser. I was a counselor for years and have seen the effects of this type of behavior. Im not saying to leave him but you may want to take a break so you can focus on healing emotionally and physically.
RE: Does your family understand and support you - bodybuilder1958 - 10-13-2009 06:46 PM
Abuse takes on many forms, we only hear about the physical form due to the outward scars. The very reason that you're putting money aside means you know you need to get away from him.
You need to get out to a safe house and get help, more for yourself.
RE: Does your family understand and support you - sontaysyw - 10-14-2009 11:40 AM
Cookie my heart goes out to you.I was in a abusive relationship when i was younger 18-22.This man was just brutal.The injuries i suffered was terrible and most was done in front of my babies at the time.God knows i didn't know any better and when he finally turned on my son .thats when i had the guts to get the hell out.Please,please be careful he might not have hit you,but abuse verbal,mental is in my book just has bad.My outside injuries healed,my mind was screwed up a long time.Self esteem was the lowest for years,and it affected other relationships i had been in.I'm 36 now and married to a good guy.I promise you theres is hope,I know its so much harder to leave when you have babies.Think of it this way if your soon imates your pain,what do you think he'll pick up by watching you be mistreated.Once again take care,your in my prayers.
RE: Does your family understand and support you - Still in Limbo - 10-14-2009 12:43 PM
Cookie, You are Getting some Great Advice from the Others on Here! Your BF is not Your Dr., and could Actually be Criminally Charged for taking Your Meds. from You!! That's Theft of a Controlled Substance and a Felony!! Please Listen to Some of the Other Replies on Here, and get You and Your Children Safe at All and Any Cost!!